Mute or no mute?

Some years ago, my then boyfriend and I took a holiday in one of Europe's premier naturist locations, and fell into conversation with another young couple (on their honeymoon, as it happened). We became firm friends for the duration of the holiday, and remain so to this day. Even my ex (and his current beau) keep in touch with them. The wife in the couple actually introduced me to Second Life. We're close RL friends and we'll meet up whenever we can overcome the physical distance that exists between us. That means holidays, and sometimes coffee or shopping whenever she's in my neck of the woods. We chat on the phone every couple of weeks, email one another regularly and meet up in SL even more regularly. Our paths will cross in SL maybe twice or three times each week.

Anyway, despite avatars being a constant 'work in progress', I think both of us have got to a point where we're satisfied with the avatars we wear. They are now, the odd slight tweak apart, representative of 'us'. And yet she tells me that a recent encounter with another male avatar at a sim was one where she felt as though there was a 'controlling' element at work as the male attempted to mould her to what he felt she should look like ('bigger tits' being one element of the conversation). She laughed at this, but I found it angered me somewhat, as it appeared to be an attempt to project his idea of what represented womanhood or sexuality onto her. Despite not knowing her well, it seems that the guy needed to have avatars comply to his ideals, rather than accept people for what or who they are. Equally, my friend doesn't cyber, and again a firm 'no' appears not to have been accepted by the male in question. My friend says, sooner rather than later, the male will 'defriend' her, as many SL users will be exactly that -users of other SL people, and move onto some some mega-boobed bimbo who will merrily hop on every poseball going and as long as she continues to do that she'll have a SL friend fulfilling his RL sexual frustrations to her deformed SL shape. I wouldn't have bothered. I'd have unticked and muted the creep. What's your opinion on these situations? Should you have to conform to others' concepts of who and what you are?