Thanks

I've just popped inworld to find a few IMs from readers and friends, and I can't bow out without thanking those who have IMed me with words of kindness and even some encouragement to continue blogging.

The blog will remain here, and a trawl through the previous posts may unearth some live slurls that take you to the items you need. If not, then a bit of sleuthing with names of stores may lead you to the current slurls.

To the reader who asked about my plan, a year ago, to blog about some post-apocalyptic world of semi nudity, free love and living wild (and therefore, outside the materialism of SL), it's not currently a valid proposal. I liked and like the idea, of course, but I lack the time and computer skills to buy and build some wild rain forest type sim packed with suitable poseballs in order to carry this plan out. And yes, I did say that we wouldn't need a home sim, as this SL tribe would be nomads, wandering the grid in search of food and possessions, but following further thought, that idea patently wouldn't work. To have an SL tribe, there would need to be a home sim, and I'm not leeching off someone else's hard work to basically set up camp on their work. So that idea has probably withered on the vine. The idea had merit, of course, since beyond a freebie panther outfit from one of the Gor stores, players in the tribe would have no need of much spending money (or the need to hang about endless, boring shopping malls). I'm afraid the clothes of SL never did it much for me, other than the 'sexy' items used while playing out...um....'social' situations ;) which is why we never blogged much. We could have done, but others did it better, and more regularly. It was never our forte, nor intended to be.

As for my plans? Just having an ordinary SL again, not one dominated by the blog. It'll be fun. SL should always be fun, otherwise there's no point.

And finally (no, really finally), to the reader proposing partnership(!!!!!), um, sorry babes, but no thanks. That is not on my agenda with anyone, ever. We've spoken about twice and you're lost in the concept of projecting something onto a photo of a naked player on the blog's front page. I don't get, and never have been, emotionally attached to other players. Sorry. There's someone out there, better than me, for you.

And with that...I'm signing off. Have a great SL, wherever you are.

Emma

Yer Mawm!

One blog I've been reading recently is Yer Mawm!

What I like about it is that it isn't afraid to show nipples and pubes when dealing with skins, and they've got the inside track on a lot of lingerie stuff that we've not even been aware of. In fact, so much lovely, sexy lingerie it would make Mal's head explode!

I've never understood the prudishness displayed by some bloggers where skins are concerned. Pasties and nipple tapes, panties and shorts. How do you get to to assess a skin where half the skin is covered?

Anyway, I've been in contact with the ladies blogging there, and I thoroughly recommend that you follow the link and bookmark Yer Mawm! What you found here, you'll find, in the main, over there. If you've been a regular reader here, then it's going to supplant this blog in your hearts as your numero uno stop for 'sexy'.

More regular blogging, a wider range of items (all falling into the 'sexy' category) and good writing. I think you should find most of the stuff you need over there. I know that I will be making it a daily halt on my SL time, as I get back to a normal (ha!) SL.

Time to call it a day?

Traffic remains steady on the posts we have put up over the past two years, with old posts as popular as new ones. So, there's obviously some sort of ongoing need (from new players?) for the items we've blogged.

But I feel the blog has run out of steam.

Ella has gone. Honey and Rosemary's more explicit stuff doesn't, surprisingly, attract huge volumes of traffic, and thus I've not posted up any more of their 'adventures'. We've kind of mutually agreed that it's not going anywhere with either of them. Marlene's more interested in raising cash and awareness for breast cancer, and I don't blame her one iota. It's much more important an issue than blogging. Vajeena's MIA until the new year (RL commitments) and that leaves Mal, Diane and myself.

It seems the old gang has been split up, and there's no one to replace vital components in what made SSL, and then 2ex, work. So I've taken an executive decision that, after two years, we're shutting up shop. Like shops and sims in SL, this blog has run its course and it's time to pull the shutters down. I've taken a break from blogging and, quite honestly, I've not missed it that much.

What I'm going to do over the next week is blitz the grid for current slurls, showing you where you can currently get many of the items we've blogged over the past two years (if still available), a sort of handy guide to pubes, see thru clothes, lingerie, etc. And at that point, we're done. :)

Am I giving up on SL? Not on your nelly! I'll be freed to go back to having a SL! Time is always limited, and as this blog grew, my SL presence faded. Time to redress that imbalance, I think.

I'd like to thank all the readers of the blog -and we do have a global presence from San Francisco to Vladivostock- and all those who helped over the two years. Special thanks to Tiny Larkham, who was very supportive, and of course all the staff at 2ex.

Maybe we'll run into each other on the grid. Who knows? In the meantime, Merry Christmas, and have a great 2013 in and out of SL.

Love and best wishes,

Emma.

New posts coming

New posts on Thursday and Friday

Our poll

Not many voters...but it seems you're split between more and less 'x' rated material on the site. I'd hoped for a clear(er) indication of where your priorities lay, and that I wouldn't have to make a casting vote, but I opted to include more 'x' rated stuff as the blog developed, and I guess my casting vote must fall on the side of more 'x' rated stuff in that case. I do have some material by Honey and Rosemary that's worthy of posting, so I guess it's also a case of continuing as we were. Although the poll was indecisive, it does give me an indication of where the blog can continue to go, so emboldened with that knowledge, we can move forward! :)

Thank you to those who voted.

Ems

xxx

Blogger re-vamp

Apologies if the site doesn't like 'quite right' in terms of layout. Blogger have altered the interface and left us with a huge left hand margin down the page(s), so I'll investigate and repair this if and when I can.

I knew this would happen! (pubic hair and see thru shirts)

I knew this would happen! As soon as I announced a brief hiatus from blogging, I've been inundated with items to blog.

Over at the Never Ever and Robbish store, there's a net shirt in the Men's Hunt. I know, I know, I try to avoid hunts, but fortunately the store is small enough to ensure you aren't going to wander aimlessly for ages, and I found the item quite quickly.

After that it was a zoom over to Spangles Jewelry Box at the urging of a 2ex reader, to pick up a L$100 pack containing five pubic hair styles. You know, if this keeps up maybe I can run this as a pubic hair blog after all, lol! A lovely little set that's costing you a mere L$20 per style? You can't go wrong!

Something has changed

I've been doing some overnight thinking about this blog.

I think it's safe to say we've lost, or maybe never had, a real focus on where our interests and desires lay. A 'soft' sexuality? Or 'x' rated stuff?

I'm keenly aware we've served a purpose of sorts, the readership have made it clear we've been invaluable for new players, and for old hands re-aligning their SL's, in areas such as lingerie and pubic hair. But we can't exist as a SL lingerie blog, and even less as a SL pubic hair blog.

The pages read suggest that's an ongoing thing, as new players come on board and search for specific items they require for their avatar. But the fact is that 'sexuality' is, in the context of this board, becoming narrower. People don't read the stuff on homosexuality. Maybe it's time for someone out there to start their own blog focussing on the gay scene in SL, because as sure as hell my audience isn't interested.

And we've polarised opinion with the 'x' rated stuff. Some people like it (a lot) and others loathe the in-your-face approach. Maybe SL isn't ready to grow up to its sexuality yet.

So...I need to re-think this blog, and with it maybe my own SL.

Ella's departure for a new venture, focussed entirely on one aspect of the broad church of SL sexuality -naturism (and Ella would maybe argue that's not even sexual)- makes me think something was lost with her going. I can't replace authors as good as her at the drop of a hat. I can't offer the photographers regular work, nor even Mal if I'm honest, and lingerie is a staple of the SL design world.

I've had a sneak preview of Ella's new venture, too, and I believe it already looks a million times better than this blog, with a much more talented writer at the helm. I'm not bitter about her leaving, I'm glad her talents were recognised by others and she has moved onto something that looks like it will be a great success (and looks wonderful). Diane, too, had kind of moved on, taking commissions for SL photography work here and there, and branching out from the little arena of work we offered her. Marlene, too, has moved on, beginning here as a 'lesbian affairs' writer, before RL kicked in with illness that she overcame, but then re-aligned her RL focus, and now spends a lot of her free time working with a breast cancer charity. We wish her continued good health, and happiness with Lizzie, who recently became her SL partner after some drama en route to finding SL contentment with another. I've had this crew assembled for the best part of two years, but SL and RL moves on. I'm not sure I've the energy to assemble a new crew of writers to fill the gaping holes left by their departures (or part-departures). Vaj's current RL work circumstances up to and over Christmas mean she'll be a rare visitor to SL, let alone to the blogosphere.

As a result of this, I've decided to largely park and rethink this blog between now and Christmas. Of course there'll be the odd Mal post (or one or two from myself, Christmas is a time for a lot of SL sexy lingerie), but for now I'm going to 'disband' the remainder of the crew for six weeks, until the new year. We'll come back with a new design and outlook, I promise, and a more tightly defined focus on where this blog is headed. Currently, my thinking is that we're maybe going down a lingerie/sexy clothes route, and blogs such as these already exist and do it better than we ever could. I won't be taking that route. It's boring, to me, and if that's the future, the 2ex will cease to exist.

'X' rated stuff? You don't seem overly excited by it. It's something I thought would be popular, but I seem to be wrong. Honey and Rosemary's pages aren't being visited that often. Explicit stuff isn't that exciting to the readership. This, surprisingly, doesn't appear to be the future either. Davlos's work has been a breath of fresh air, both to me and to you, but again I can't run a blog dependent on his contributions, although his report from 'the commune' remains a very popular post, and I suspect has led to a lot of visitors to the sim. A success story, certainly, but what I regard as successes are becoming fewer precisely because we aren't sure ourselves where our focus should lie.

I don't know. Maybe the blog has served its purpose and run its course. For now, not 'goodbye' but 'au revoir', and I'll be posting again in the new year, even if it's only to close this blog. As Mal (maybe) or Vaj or whoever provide material, I'll pop it up here, but I won't be contributing much myself.

Ems

Good luck, Ella!

And with her post regarding the Eden blog update, Ella is signing off from 2ex. She isn't leaving SL, or the blogosphere. Instead, the quality of her writing has been recognised elsewhere, and she has been 'headhunted' to edit a new blog. We wish her well, and thank her for her great work here at 2ex over the past months. I guess we need a new naturist correspondent here at 2ex now! :)

I shall update you on Ella's whereabouts whenever her new project finally reaches fruition at the beginning of next month!

Eden naturpolis blog re-designed

Ella Keng (2ex naturist correspondent) From a period when very little seemed to be happening on the naturist front in SL, it seems that there's now quite a bit of activity, and following on from my reporting of Su Casa's new blog, Eden Naturopolis recently appear to have updated their own blog page.

I recommend that you click the link and read all about this beautiful collection of sims.

Revisiting it for a full review of it is another thing on my 'to do' list, so I'll maybe see you there in the coming days.

Vintage Lingerie

The Vintage Fair begins tomorrow, and as readers of this blog will know, we adore vintage and retro stuff here at 2ex, particularly in the lingerie department :)

Malgorzata has already been despatched to poke around what's available, and she'll be back with a report and photos in due course, but while I was IMing her about this, Tiny Larkham's name came up (as usual!). We love Tiny's stuff, and while retro/vintage lingerie was being discussed, Mal took the opportunity to nip over to Tiny's store and poke around.

Yes, I know we've blogged Tiny's stuff before, but as this blog seems to pick up more and new readers all the time, it's absolutely worth my while pointing new readers, who may also be new players, at some of Tiny's freebies and cheapies. As well as the freebies and cheapie items there's a store full of remarkable, elegant, sensual items at full price. For me, it's one of those stores I would need to drive up to in a van, break down the doors while wearing a balaclava (so best to avoid detection on Tiny's CCTV) and make off with her entire stock! I love it.

Two pictures of Mal in a L$0 black lace bra from Tiny's (other colours are also available)

Poll No.1

I've added a poll to the blog, and the first question I wish to ask is if you'd like more 'x' rated material on the blog. The reason I ask is because Honey and Rosemary have been pretty busy of late and Rosemary's, in particular, is red hot!

In discussions with others it seems some prefer a more general, 'soft' sexuality: naturist sims, advice on where to buy pubic hair, lingerie, that sort of stuff, while others really would like something altogether more adult.

The poll ends in a week, so cast your (anonymous) vote. In the meantime I'm holding back some of this incendiary material

Su Casa has a new blog

Ella Keng (2ex naturist correspondent)

Su Casa naturist island now has its own blog.

It's a place I visit from time to time, although I'm not really a regular visitor. I'm going to increase my visitations, because the creation of the blog tells me one thing...Su Casa are bedding in for the long haul. And if they're planning on being around for a while, rather than some of the fly-by-night naturist sims that pop up and disappear, they're investing their time in their sim, so it's only fair that I should return the favour by investing my time in their sim too!

I've said it before and I'll say it again, Su Casa is a good, genuine naturist sim with apparent genuine naturist aspirations and values, which is why I like it so much. Not overly crowded, and with what appears to be an exceptionally friendly, welcoming crowd.

Ella

MTV European Music Awards

Now that it's over, I feel I can say that for the last week I've been camped in Belfast, Ireland, while part-organising the event. Not the glamorous, on-screen parts, but the rather more mundane but nonetheless important logistical behind the scenes bits. Fantastic night, fantastic welcome, fantastic people and hospitality from the people in this beautiful (if chilly) city. Got back from an after-party at 730am and have just got up, slightly the worse for wear. :)

Normal blogging resumes tomorrow, as the break-down of equipment requires less of a hands-on the the build, and I'm home on Wednesday. Some articles from Vaj and Mal are in the pipeline, plus a page of urls put together by Rosemary of sims she's been to recently.

Talk more later this week (when not hungover) and I've got a few days off to enjoy.

Double Standards

HONEY OGLEBY: I got an IM about two weeks ago in which I was accused of being all sorts of things, regarding my SLSL (Second Life Sex Life). I've been open, through this blog, about the number of encounters I've had. There have been a lot. What's more, other than maybe hooking up for one-night stands with guys who have been fairly boring in themselves, and lacked much of a keyboard personality, I've regretted none of them. It has been a wild adventure in which I've explored parts of my sexuality that I would not have done in RL, nor will ever do.

It's important to separate the SL 'Honey Ogleby' from the person at the keyboard. Oh, sure, we cross over a bit, but I imagine that if I'd been quite so promiscuous in RL I'd have been dead, from exhaustion, illness or something else by now.

From day 1 in our SL's we're surrounded by sex and bombarded by it, bombarded with sometimes unwanted IMs from dreary guys walking around with noob cocks on display. Then our jaws drop on the realisation that they're 1000 days old, and still haven't bothered to keep it real. 'Wanna have fun?', they ask.

This is fine for guys. They're 'studs' who notch up encounters on the bedposts and are admired for their prowess with the ladies. Not so dissimilar to real life. But if a girl adopts the same attitude to sex she's a slut, a slapper, a whore or whatever. Not so dissimilar to real life.

Stick your cock in 1000 pussies and you're fantastic. Have 1000 cocks stuck in your pussy and you're a slut. And guys, who adopt this attitude in RL, carry it on into SL. I often have one night stands, but sometimes carry on longer, deeper relationships in SL. There can be a meeting of minds and the cyber is deeper and more satisfying as a result. And in the midst of one of these, maybe a year or so ago, one guy said to me that he'd have liked to have partnered me (I'd have refused anyway, it's not on my SL agenda) but that I came with 'baggage'. What he meant was that the knowledge of a very active sexual past bothered his RL mind in the context of SL. He couldn't get around the fact that I might have cybered with a lot of guys and I suppose, in a sense, there was something to compare himself against. Like a RL guy might fret that his cock might not measure up to something his girlfriend had previously experienced, this guy was fretting his cyber technique might not measure up. I reminded him that I wasn't the one carrying the baggage, he was.

I enjoy cybering. It's a challenge to be creative and inventive, erotic and sexy in words. I am doing what so many guys in SL do, on a daily basis, which is to bed female avatars. I bed as many male avatars as possible, and enjoy the writing challenge of making the encounter enjoyable and positive. I do not need to explain myself (although that's exactly what I'm doing here).

Guys, you need to examine your attitudes towards cyber, and women in general. You need to accept that, sometimes, a woman's libido (in RL or in SL) is just as great as yours. You need to accept and understand that women have found their sexuality in the late 20th and early 21st centuries, and can be just as predatory as you are.

And when it comes to tripping down the aisle, that old 'virgin bride' schtick is very much a rarity nowadays. She will have had a sexual past before you. It's not 'baggage', it's part of who she is. Accept and understand it. The same applies in SL. Some women maybe fairly chaste in their SL's, and some may not even cyber at all (I've seen it described as 'pointless', 'boring' and even 'virtual adultery'). Others will have bedded more guys than you have women.

I'm making no apologies for my SLSL, and will keep on doing what I'm doing. Having fun in SL. So please, please, please never have the audacity to accuse me of being a 'whore' or anything else via IM, or daring to act as some kind of moral guardian to my SL.

Honey Ogleby

Emma says: I agree with much of Honey's assessment on the double standards that get carried into SL from RL, not just in terms of sexuality either. Readers who've been with us from the start may recall that I started it as a SL virgin and the original intent was to follow a path of sexual awakening conducted through the blog. Somewhere on the line, the blog's intent changed and I never pursued that idea (although I did lose my SL virginity during the course of this blog and had dozens of suitors who liked the idea of helping me lose it, all of whom disappeared when I announced it was gone, lol. Just like RL, guys are fascinated by the idea of 'breaking in' a virgin). I've found a significant other with whom I occasionally cyber, but I don't feel any real need to share the encounters. It's a private thing, conducted privately, and I make no apologies for 'unticking' friends to appear offline when doing so. I don't want someone saying 'hi' in the middle of it, or having to explain to them that I'm getting laid. Guys also need to accept what women want from their SLSL's. Ella, for example, doesn't cyber at all, and says as much in her profile. She has told me that, despite this, some guys don't want to take no for an answer and she has been forced to 'unfriend' people she has known a long time when they've become too persistent. Learn, guys, to accept no means no, as in RL.

Solitaire and Panties Down

I am grateful to reader Sanne for pointing me in the direction of Solitaire, a store/sim I've not been able to find in search (although other Solitaires turn up). You should visit, as it has (priced at L$220 and L$120) a pussy in 'normal' and 'enlarged' (i.e, aroused) states -see the bottom two photos- and pubic hair in a five pack of various topiary styles, from wild (see top pic, of me and of the close up) through to a landing strip (photo 3) and other styles (photos 4-6). I think I will wear most of these at some points in my SL, depending on mood.

I'm also on the lookout -at the request of another reader- to locate a pussy that has a pronounced mound (of Venus). The reader wishes to replicate her real life vaginal profile with her avatar, but is having difficulty locating one which matches her own body. A pronounced mound of Venus or mons pubis, would be a profile whereby there is quite a pronounced 'bump' around the vulva, and is disposed to aiding and abetting the 'camel toe' effect a lot. (see photo below)

Before you ask, that's not me in the photo! :) I have, however, located some camel toe panties at Panties Down which has a pack of five different coloured panties for L$200. and gives the effect of this

tennis star Anna Kournikova wearing panties that are too tight :) and creating an effect men seem to adore. Worn with the right outfit in SL (or used as bikini bottoms) it could be very sexy indeed. Panties Down also sells other panty related items, such as panties strewn across the floor (great if you have a SL apartment where you can litter the bathroom and bedroom floors!) and panties washed and hanging on a line (hang them over your SL bath!). An excellent little store well worth a visit.

Remember, if you have specific needs, ask! One of us will have some experience of the items you may require, and if we don't we'll throw it out to a knowledgeable readership.

nb: I'm off tonight and daylight hours on Friday before getting back into a heavy work schedule, so probably no more posts from me, I might be able to get a post or two from one of the other writers published if I have anything to post, until Monday or Tuesday next week.

What about the children?

I've previously moaned, to Emma, and through the blog, about the dearth of genuine naturist sims in SL. Yes, there are a few, and I blogged the current, quality (by my understanding) urls on this post a week or two back.

What do I mean by genuine?, someone IMed me to ask. By that, I mean those sims that contain an atmosphere that replicates real life naturist locations. And that means 'social nudity', not 'sex going on three steps away'. Many places in SL don't understand this, and will advertise a sim as a 'nudist beach' when it is, in reality, a sex sim. Essentially, if certain words are contained in their search tags, I won't visit or review it -they simply don't understand what naturism actually is, which is that it's non-sexual, at least publicly. Certainly, the relaxed atmosphere of naturism and social nudity can and does create a sensuality in adherents from time to time, but it isn't 'sporting a huge erection' type sensuality. It's more of a 'retiring to the rented apartment or hotel room and doing what comes naturally' kind of sensuality. For example, both of my children were almost certainly conceived while their father and I were on one of our annual naturist holidays! :)

Since then, we've taken them with us on our continuing naturist holidays, and while they're still of pre-school age, they simply enjoy splashing in the pool or the sea and building sandcastles while a nude Mum and Dad spend some quality time with them. It's time we look forward to having together as a family each summer, and the nudity is incidental to them. They probably aren't even aware of it yet, and simply love splashing around with us.

They're rewarding, challenging, loving and loveable, and ultimately exhausting, and I use the little free time I have to sometimes log into SL and use it as a relaxation tool, a fantasy world in which I can unwind and chill with the game in progress, some music on in the room at home (or via the various SL audio feeds) and with a glass of wine to hand. And sometimes, even when logged in, I don't even 'play' much. I park my avatar on a sunbed, set the radio feed to the music the sim provides, and do some RL work. If someone says 'hi!', or if a friend logs in, I'll respond and chat, but that may be the extent of my SL play on a particular evening.

On other occasions my play is more interactive, but I'll very often stay within the confines of various naturist sims, dance and chat. But even on the more genuine sims, one thing is often missing: children. It kind of skews the whole family vibe found in genuine naturism.

Of course, I'm not advocating 'age play', which I find distasteful, knowing an adult is behind a tiny avatar and often roleplaying, and I'd question the motivations that may often be behind the adoption of a child avatar. Some may be innocent, others less so. On that basis it's good to know the sim is being kept 'clean' by the banning of age play or tiny avatars. Let's keep it that way.

However, despite the fact that I'm using my SL free time to escape everyday life for brief periods, there's sometimes occasions when I think I'd love to be playing with one of my children on a beach, replicating beautiful real life experiences and memories. But I'm not about to 'adopt' another avatar to fulfil this role. So how do we manage to create a more realistic family atmosphere on various beaches (naturist or textile) in SL?

I think I've an answer.

One of my SL friends owns a pet dog in SL. It's not another avatar being a furry. It's an attachment whereby she can walk a sim in SL with her pet dog never far behind her, tracing her footsteps. The dog, I think, can be 'taught' commands such as 'sit', and will animate accordingly. I'm advocating that some of SL's finer computer minds might wish to create similar attachments in child form. I'd love to be able to, once in a while, wander on a beach with a child, and animated attachment child, in tow, and maybe sit on the water's edge watching the child attachment play on the sand. Or maybe head to a shopping mall where -as in real life- a bored child wanders near me, and then attempts to wander off. The RL mums out there will know what this is like, one eye on a new dress, one eye on your son or daughter.

There's plenty of partnered couples out there in SL, and some of them are recreating, to some realistic sense, the female's fertility with the Mama Allpa hud, wherein the female can, and does, get pregnant. So what happens at the end of the pregnancy? Just another box in inventory? I think it would be terrific if a couple (or woman) could attach a child attachment that toddles around in tow. There would be no capacity for ageplay, the child merely being an attachment like a pet dog readily available in SL.

Oh, I know you're going to mention the 'nudity' element. I agree, and I would propose that, at the very least, the toddler comes wearing a nappy/diaper at the very least. Who knows? With some integration between hud and designers, it might just be possible to load clothes onto the child attachment, thereby providing a new revenue stream for designers.

I'd love to know what you think of the idea. Would some of you, as RL mums, embrace the idea of having a 'child' -with none of the morality issues SL has brought up regarding age play in the past- attached to your avatar? Let me know what you think. I'd love to hear other people's views on this.

Ella Keng.

Ooh la la!

Wow! Plausible Body are currently offering a french maid's outfit. I'm confident the concept of the erotic french maid is not lost on any of you, being a staple of films and photography over the years. It's also something called 'open price', which means it's L$0, but then you can donate as much or as little as you wish according to how much you feel it is worth to you. It's certainly worth quite a bit to me, as there are a variety of options available in what is an extensive folder of items that offer many, many opportunities to mix and match elements to achieve different sexy looks.

Starting with the top two photos, I'm in the full ensemble complete with feather duster. The third pic shows just the apron and shirt being worn, and the fourth stockings and garters (there's also 'frills' for the panties should you wish to add them. I could have taken so many more photos but I've limited to five here. The final photograph shows the undies, a see-thru bra (always a favourite at 2ex) and also just a wonderful pair of panties. I'm getting tired with the thong look, and a simple full brief pair of plain black panties just look wonderful.

Plausible Body also do a further range of shoes, latex jumpsuits and other items, and I'm pressed for time today, so I've IMed a couple of the other girls to maybe hop along and provide their own comments and photos about this wonderful little shop full of excellent, wonderful sexy, erotic items. This maid's outfit would be great for roleplay. And girls, maybe you could encourage the odd guy to offer employment opportunities by cleaning his condo while wearing this! ;)

Vaj

Bare Sensual pubic layer

I'd not heard of Bare Sensual before, but I was given the heads up by a 2ex reader (and SL friend) today about its current group gifts. So...without further ado...I headed on over there and joined the group (L$0) because, well, just look at the photos!

It's a free (free!!!) tattoo layer of delightfully natural pubes, and I'm really excited by these. Why? Because not only to they look absolutely fabulous, but the tattoo element means no awkward attaching/detaching of pubes that show through clothes. (I'm wearing a pair of sheer panties in one of the photos (below) to show how well the effect works, and oh how sexy it looks as an ensemble).

I've IMed the store owner, Gigi Ponnier, and have asked that the item -a sure fire 2EX 'sexy' item that I know you, the readers, will adore- is kept 'live' for at least a few more days so that you can zip over there and pick this sexy, sexy item up! No response yet (I've just sent her a notecard within seconds of blogging this on Friday morning) so be sure to hurry along and join. I note that Bare Sensual also does some very affordable L$10 items, such as skins. I missed a lovely looking Asian styled skin, but it's still available at an affordable price if you're looking for something in that line.

This store is a fabulous find, and I would encourage you all to nip over there and pick this up, pronto!

Love,

Vaj.

Graffiti

I'm grateful to the reader who sent me the top photo (in its uncensored form) and said that it reminded him of one of Mal's photos on the Attitudes Lingerie shoot. I sent Mal out to do a sort of replication of the real life photograph, and one example is attached. The rest of the shoot is going on our flickr site.

Note: I've censored the RL picture, as this is a 'cartoon', SL sexuality blog, not a porn page (although, granted, the photo isn't actually porn, but simply nude women). But I was tickled by the idea of readers comparing what they see elsewhere on the web and comparing to our pages -although I'm not quite sure what form of googling led to discovery of the RL pic, lol. And with that in mind I've decided that if you see a pic that you think is 'erotic' in any shape or form, and you'd like to see some of the girls or guys pose in similar SL surroundings, let me know and I'll send some of us out to pose for you!

Another brief inworld hiatus from me

Well, my 'weekend' is now over, and I'm currently at the airport as work is taking me away from home for about 10 days, and long working days at that. A project that I've been working on behind the scenes for months is about to come to fruition, and I'll be on site to manage certain elements of it.

The hotel has wi-fi, of course, so there'll be the odd posting from some of the other girls and boys, as time permits me to upload their contributions, but I don't expect to have any inworld presence for the next 10 days or so.

I'm quite excited about this upcoming 'gig', which is an MTV Europe production. And that's the only clue you're getting, lol. I should be in my hotel around lunchtime, so after a quick orientation of the site, I'll maybe get the chance to publish a couple of quickie posts before the hard work starts tomorrow.

Drama? Drama!

One of our growing band of readers passed the following to me. She received it unsolicited, and says she never met, knew (or slept with) the person named in the notecard, but I thought you might like to see the contents anyway.

This may come as a shock to some of you that I am sending this too or you may not even care but (name removed) is a 52 yr old man and also my husband whom I loved and trusted. After discovering he has this whole other life here I need some closure and would like to know why he did this and what kind of relationship he had with all these people.... was it just a game or did he really have a relationship with you. Did he have any other avatars? Anything you can tell me will help me figure out why he did this. I am also sorry if any of you have been hurt by his lies.

I'm guessing, but it rather looks like a male in his 50s has been posing as a female(?), and a milf(?). Now his RL wife has found out about SL and gone nuclear. Her whole world has been turned upside down by SL and some secretive world her husband inhabited, and reading between the lines she could, in theory, be suffering right now with the foundations of her marriage crumbling. Or is that the case?

Further sleuthing on the name of the person who has led this secretive Second Life reveals the following profile.

Yes I am a lying piece of shit!! I am a 52 yr old man. Be careful who you trust on SL. All of you who knew me are sick fucks! What comes around goes around.

Is that the wife re-writing the profile? Or is it something else? The first two sentences are consistent with 'the story so far', but then things go slightly awry. 'All of you who knew me are sick fucks?' Are they, though? If I've got this right, then the RL guy posing as a 'milf' has probably been cybering guys. Now, those guys may think they've been having sex with a woman, but it's really a man behind the keyboard. Does this change anything? We project our own mental images onto an avatar (and the words they write) and take whatever we need from the text exchange. Does this make the exchange more 'screwed up'? I'd argue it doesn't, as literature is littered with men writing as women, women writing as men, and projecting a false masculine/feminine 'sexuality' onto the page (where sexuality is in the text). If we read a racy novel, and the female heroine is sexually succumbing to some rugged hunk, the sexuality on the page remains real, erotic and maybe even arousing. Does it matter if it's male author writing from a female perspective, or vice versa? No. The words remain erotic and maybe even arousing.

SL is the same. If this guy has been posing as a 'milf' and bedding RL guys in the context of SL, it doesn't make those guys 'sick fucks'. Or the 'milf' author. It's merely an exercise in roleplay, fantasy, imagination, projection and literary skills. The 'milf' doesn't have to have issues pending, nor the (RL male) recipients of his 'loving'. It's a game and it's fantasy and imagination. Now unless there has been some RL confession about RL gender confusion, and latent homosexuality on the writer's part, it's not overly important, in my eyes. Worse, I think, would be the RL male posing as a young stud and bedding SL women by the score, because that might signify something in the RL marriage requiring attention. Even then, exercising a virtual need is probably better than visiting RL hookers.

Of course, that's only my opinion, and I'm aware that others (such as RL wife) might regard things differently. But I'm still confused by the profile, which says that 'what comes around goes around'. Will it? The RL guys screwed the 'milf' in good faith. What makes them 'sick'? (unless she's referring to them, too, being caught out masturbating in front of a SL screen by their RL wives. It's not very clear what's intended here.

But if we can learn anything from this is that it's real people with real feelings behind the keyboard, and it's always best to be nice to one another and as truthful as one can be. Yes, it's a fantasy where some truth is suspended, and it's the suspension of the real that makes SL such fun. How horrible would it be to live a SL where you work all day and then come home to watch TV with a Sl partner and maybe have sex once a week? Best to do nothing other than sail your yacht and bed shapely lovelies 2-3 times a night, isn't it?

The Pregnancy Reports (5)

Doksie's pregnancy continues, and she's now in her fifth month. I've asked for (but not got back yet) a further update, but I have heard from the father! There has been an exchange of IMs, and I report them verbatim (with his permission). I've decided not to name him, and his 'going public' will remain his choice and decision. I'm not overly fond of the 'f' word being used so often and freely on this blog, but having reached agreement for verbatim posting, I felt compelled to leave the words in. The only alterations are my italicised and bracketed comments where there were spelling errors.

We'll pick things up with the 3rd IM I sent him.

Emma: Hi, I'm Emma and I run a blog about SL sexuality. One of my volunteers, Doksie Resident, is pregnant with your child yet she hasn't heard from you despite IMing you. I'm wondering about your feelings on it and whether you'd like to talk about it.

??: Yeah, I got your IMs and I've seen your web sight (sic). I'll complain to Lindens if you use my name or make accusations about me.

E: I've no desire to name you for now. I'm just trying to piece together continuing reports about her pregnancy and the impact it has on yours and her SL. You can keep chatlogs about what's said and you have my promise I won't name you unless you agree. Will you talk to me about it?

??: OK. I'll keep the chatlogs in that case. I've talked to her in any case in the meantime. The pregnancy is a mistake.

E: You were both wearing the huds and it's a mistake?

??: I met her at the Mama Allpa sight (sic) and we started chatting. She was cute and funny and we ended up in bed, OK? I thought she was on the pill and I thought I was wearing the condom thing from Mama Allpa. It was just sex. She's not the one I wanted to make pregnant.

E: Wow! You had someone else in mind you were going to impregnate and disappear on?

??: You don't understand. It's complicated. I have a friend and I'm more emotionally attached to her. She's partnered in SL but we've been having an affair over a long time. She persuaded her partner to buy the hud so she could have a baby but she has been fucking him using (mama allpa) birth control while we've not been using it. I want to have her baby, not Doksie's. We wanted to have a SL child together and her SL partner not know about it and think it was his.

E: So Doksie was just meaningless sex?

??: I fucked her, yeah. She wasn't a great emoter. It wasn't erotic for me. There was no feeling of connected with her. It wasn't good cyber and I wouldn't have fucked her again.

E: You cyber a lot?

??: I'm happy with the pussy I get, yeah. It's not a crime. Most guys are at it.

E: I'm not being judgmental. I'm just establishing the background. So you bought the hud to get someone else pregnant, in the context of an SL affair, and Doksie was recreational as opposed to procreational sex. But do you feel you have any sense of responsibility?

??: Not really. It isn't like it's a real kid.

E: Yet you want to have 'not a real kid' with someone else? Someone who is already partnered and with whom you're cheating on her SL partner?

??: It's a game. We like the idea of him raising my kid in SL. We think its a funny idea.

E: Before we go any further, I'd like to get Doksie's response. Will you be prepared to talk to me again?

??: I don't know. As far as I'm concerned it's just another bit of Second Life. The baby can be hidden away in her inventory. Its not like it will effect (sic) her entire Second Life.

New Attitudes Collection

A few days away from SL (it's always RL work related!) and my email and IM boxes are full! Please bear with me. My RL work involves odd 'weekends' (this week's is Wednesday and Thursday, for example) and SL time is virtually zero when I'm working, so the blog often ends up as a couple of days endless blogging to get caught up, and then a few days of nothing. I'm not neglecting you, it's just that I'm busy paying the bills! :)

One of the first things I opened was from Mal, who has checked out the new fall Attitudes Lingerie collections. There's so many great photos and poses (and six sets of lingerie and swimsuits) that I've settled on just a few here on the blog, with others to follow on our Flickr site.

I don't need to say much, the quality of the collection speaks for itself. Five sets come free at their store, and a sixth can only be bought by joining the Attitudes group. Joining is also free, so what's stopping you?

Gor (and BDSM)

I received an email today from a reader who asks why we've never covered, or even mentioned, Gor. We've mentioned it, as far as I recollect, in the context of free clothing that fit with 'sexy'. However, I do not like Gor, the concept, or the rather dreary books (I tried the first two, then gave up on account of them being, well, dreary!)

Yes, the silks are sexy, and so are some Panther outfits (fur loincloth works for me!) but I just don't want to get into or encourage a sub-genre world where the enslavement of women, of chaining and subjugating them, is part of the deal.

While we're on that subject, it's why we don't cover BDSM either. The torture of women (or women torturing males for that matter) is not 'erotic' to my mind. In fact, it's right up there with ageplay in the sort of things I won't cover on the blog, encourage, promote or support.

I know some may disagree, and for them there is some sense of the 'erotic' involved in it. But for me, that's not the case, and I won't be covering either Gorean or BDSM items. Occasionally, if a fur loincloth comes along, I may give it some coverage, but that'll be the limit. Why fur loincloths? I did think, at the turn of the year, of setting up a group and blog called 'Second Tribe', to the extent that they exist in unpromoted, unpublished 'ghost' form.

I was going to attempt to create a blogged back story about a post-apocalyptic world in which the inhabitants wandered a wasteland (inspired by Einstein's comment about not knowing the weaponry of World War 3, but certain World War 4 would be fought with bows, arrows, and sticks). Reduced to some kind of pre-historic existence where the clothes are furs, the food the wild animals caught, and living a nomadic, tented existence. This has never happened (yet) because this blog suddenly caught fire and we've got quite a bit of 21st century sexuality to comment on, but it may happen at some point in the future, I don't know. But my vision of that was for a sort of 'normal' sexuality to be the case, and perhaps some role reversal in which women were the sexual predators. I never quite finished off the back story and 'rules' in which this SL group might exist, and maybe I never will. In the meantime, we can continue to dwell on SL sexuality as a mirror of the here and now RL equivalent. And that excludes Gor, or any form of subjugation of women.

What we do for the girls, we do for the guys! :)

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2ex group gifts

Reading the blog stats, it's obviously that it's not only me who has a keen interest in being dressed 'down there', with several posts on the topic being exceptionally popular.

When I started in SL 'Figgis' used to offer two free pantie layer options to give 'down there' a finished look, these being the 'shaved pussy' and 'regular pubes' options.

As far as I can tell 'Figgis' no longer operate in SL, but there's a ghost of their presence in that these two items still regularly appear around the grid with shops sometimes selling them for L$30!

No! Players, new players in particular, need free and ready access to certain items (which to my mind should be available as part of the inventory folder from the first log in anyway). And so I've decided, simply because the option is there, to share these two free items with our group members (the group's free to join). Click on notices and you'll get the option to 'save attachment' for each of the items.

I wore both of these on initial entry into SL, and they're still worthy of sharing around. I've not changed the permissions (they aren't my design to alter, in the first instance) so you can copy and transfer them, as far as I know. The only option disabled is 'no modify'.

The Pregnancy Reports (4)

Well, it's time to continue with 'The Pregnancy Reports'. You may recall that I sourced some volunteers at the Mama Allpa sim, two males and two females, with the intention of following them if they either got pregnant or got someone else pregnant, and showing how the hud would work and getting their feelings on the entire process as it developed. I'm pleased to say that one of the female volunteers is now expecting, so it's time to introduce...Doksie.

Doksie (Mum to be). Hi. I signed up to Emma's vision of following the pregnancy because it seemed like a great way of examining the way in which the Mama Allpa hud works, and also because it was maybe a great psychological exercise. In real life I'm a Mum already, of teenage girls, and I'm always concerned that there's going obviously be some sexual activity in their lives without there being any responsibility. Yeah, I was young too once, and when the hormones are jumping and passions aroused, it's hard to resist natural urges. I remember drunken nights where things happened that shouldn't have, where there was bad choices of boyfriends, and where periods arrived late, complete with all the anxiety it caused. I joined SL precisely with the intention of fulfilling fantasies and I run a main avatar who does everyday avatar things (which has previously included cyber too), but I did like the idea of an alt who was a 'wild child' and would do all the things my main avi wouldn't. My main avi is an extension of the real, kind of normal Mum person I am, but 'Doksie' would be different (look up a definition of a 'doxy' to understand exactly how I named my avatar and where I saw her SL going). So while I wasn't new to cyber, it wasn't an everyday occurrence with me.

I managed to get Doksie to lose her virginity and get pregnant simultaneously. How often has that happened in real life? We hear about things like that happening all the time. It generally doesn't happen to married women, in the marital bed, edging up on 30 and with normal fertility. Sometimes it takes months to get pregnant (and that was my own, eventual experience of trying to get pregnant). But often some poor girl ends up surrendering her virginity in a messy, fumbling way in the back seat of a car and the first time she does, she's expecting.

Doksie has only had one lover so far, so I know exactly who the father of her unborn child is. And despite him taking a paternity test with me at Mama Allpa, and being aware that he's a dad to be, there has been no further SL contact. Job done and responsibilities shunned. Again, that replicates real life on so many occasions.

And so Doksie has moved into the first trimester of her pregnancy. Mama Allpa have provided a folder containing details (and a comfortable pair of pregnancy trousers!) with full explanations of the changing body shape, how best to roleplay the pregnancy and other stuff besides. In that respect the 'aftercare' from the hud has been superb, and some real, intelligent thought has gone into the entire process. I'm assuming there will be further folders as the pregnancy continues in the second and third trimesters. This is excellent work by the designers, and I have to say I'm delighted, in that respect, with my L$249 purchase, which now looks like a steal.

And one other aspect of it that has impressed me is the referral to what you should do in the event of a real life pregnancy. With the hud has come some sense of taking responsible actions. They make it clear that real life pregnancy is not a game, and that there are important issues to be addressed.

One aspect I would encourage the designers to explore -and this may be controversial- is of making it possible to abort. This is the solution in so many instances in real life to unplanned pregnancies, and it's also what I would imagine is a time of great anguish to so many young couples. Given the opportunity to play this scenario would maybe add an extra dimension to the hud and teach people that there are decisions, decisions that will haunt you forever, to be made. Perhaps, once the hud server has established paternity, the female (alone, as may often be the case in RL) should have the opportunity to abort, and where she does, the father gets a message to his hud saying this is about to happen, giving him the opportunity to support or reject the decision. Further messages to the parents -'your aborted child would have been one SL year old today'- might be further reminders of the responsibilities attached to sexual activity and parenthood. Personally, I'm all on for making the Mama Allpa hud 'standard issue' on entry into SL, for both sexes, so that avatars learn to take responsibility for their sexual activity. I'll be back with further reports on how I'm progressing to birth of my SL baby.

Doksie was in conversation with Emma, via a series of IMs, and the text was made into a narrative whole by Emma. Doksie has already seen the completed blog entry and is happy with the way in which her words have been represented.

Emma adds: 'I've tried to contact the father, whose name was provided by Doksie, but he has thus far failed to respond, despite being online when being contacted on one occasion. I intend to keep attempting to make contact throughout Doksie's pregnancy'.

I'm free!!!!

Marlene Macbeth (Sapphic Affairs Correspondent) I'm just back from the hospital, via a local hostelry, where my RL partner and I enjoyed a long and liquid lunch to celebrate the fact that I am cancer free.

Breast Cancer Awareness Month continues throughout October. Please do all you can to support it, and be sure that you educate yourself about it. In the UK, 48,000 were diagnosed with it last year. 12,000 died from it (although be aware there is no direct correlation between the two figures in any one year). While the figures demonstrate just how 'curable' it is, early detection and treatment are key. In America, for example, 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with it. Most will survive it but, again, the key is in early detection, checking for lumps, attending mammogram clinics when requested to do so and so on.

Tonight I shall celebrate my survival, first-rate medical care and early detection. Please ensure you, or those close to you (we all seem to know someone who has suffered it, or lost someone to it) support fund raising to ensure early detection and treatment continues and improves. Thank you.

Honey! When I asked for a 'head shot'.....

Emmanuelle Warden (2ex Editor) LOL. I put out notecards to the staff over the course of yesterday and today asking for 'head shots', as I intend to publish their photo beside each blog contribution. You can see mine (left) and then I'll have the name, in bold type, and the role each person plays in the wonderful world of 2ex italicised. I expect that this will become a standard layout in future posts, where applicable. I was a little surprised to continue on answering IMs, putting out requests/notecards to the staff and generally doing some 2ex 'housekeeping' to find Honey's contribution bounce straight back to me in just a few short minutes! And maybe something got lost in translation, or along the way, lol, because this, in a series of four similar photos, is what came right back at me! :))))))

Umm...Honey....sweetie...when I asked for a 'head' shot.... ;)

Breast cancer awareness month

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and the campaign reaches its climax on October 28th. Be sure you support any of the bloggers/designers in SL who are presenting T-shirts or any other sort of clothing that highlights a thing that affects so many women.

Women still die of it, but with good screening programmes, it is very, very survivable. That is why we must do all we can in and out of Second Life to support various campaigns. I've linked to the UK campaign, but googling should lead you to various charities around the globe, including your country. I've written elsewhere on the blog about it. Please do read the post if you haven't already done so.

Emma, Diane and I all happened to be online simultaneously last week and discussed the blog, our Second Lives, our real lives and the global economy (we sorted that out in the time it took to drink a coffee, incidentally). Either Diane or Emma (it was me, Ems) mentioned you could get everything under the sun in SL. I beg to differ. I've typed 'mastectomy' into the search box and nothing comes up. It's an omission that needs to be rectified. That's why I'm going to put up L$2000 to the designer who can come up with a good mastectomy skin. Yes, probably a tall order, but it's something I'd be prepared to wear in SL in order to highlight, continually, the presence of breast cancer, how it affects women physically, and how we do not cease to be sexual beings or attractive following the loss of a breast (or breasts). I'll even throw in an extra L$500 if someone can come up with a good photorealistic skin before October 28th.

My life has been altered by breast cancer, and my SL time has diminished greatly since being diagnosed with it, as I've utilised free time to help, as a volunteer, with a UK charity. However, SL is a close-knit and sizeable online community, and I feel that it's important we get the message out, and make it loud and clear. I make no apologies for banging on about this, and will probably remind you again before the month is out. Stay happy and stay healthy.

Love,

Marlene.

PS: Would any bloggers who read this either copy and paste it into their blog, or else link to this? Every bit of publicity and awareness helps. :)

Introducing Davlos...

We've not been so lucky in attracting male writers to 2ex in the past, probably because they prefer to walk the walk (sex wise) rather than talk the talk. I'm pleased to say that we're setting that to rights today with the introduction of Davlos Karsin, a hugely talented writer, and someone who appears to be as good with the pen as he is with the (meat) sword! :) Tut, tut, Rosie! What happened to my advice not to screw the crew, lol!

Davlos did supply the photographs in order to illustrate the story, but unfortunately I've messed things up a little in the exporting from SL and importing them here, so they're here as a bunch, rather than interspersed throughout the story, because of the vagaries of working with html, and it wasn't a process I'd done before. The good news is I know where I went wrong, and can do it properly next time! I'll hand you over to Davlos now...Ems

Hey, I'm Davlos! I've been around SL for a little while and quite inevitably, I was drawn to the erotic side of SL. Allegedly, I am quite good at it (Thanks, Rosie!) and discovered this sexy blog through Vajeena. Vaj and I met in the wee hours of the morning at Turtle Coast, and I came to realize that the blog sorely needed a male writer, so, here I am!

On this page I will talk in general about my erotic experiences in SL. And yes, I love sex, and I get it a lot. One of my partners has come to tease me by calling me a "manwhore". *grins* But hey, I gotta embrace it.

I have several rules before I allow a woman to bounce away on me: first, the lady in question needs to put in effort into her descriptive writing. Words have power, and if they didn't, great figures like Martin Luther King would not have existed. Second, know that I am a Dominant, and I love to play rough. I have the capacity for tender moments, but that is reserved for those who are closest to me. Last and not least, to have fun. As much as I will derive my enjoyment from the act, I tend to make sure that all parties involved are having a good time, too.

Turtle Coast has been my adopted home ever since I moved into the Kaiya Islands community over a week ago. To those not familiar with Kaiya Islands, it contains the famous naturalist community of Wild Coast, alongside Turtle Coast - a more erotic-centric zone and The Bay, a public waterfront entertainment center. I fell in love with the place, for its beautiful build and coupled with the furniture, is bleeding with potential. I always find myself hanging out at the Turtle, so please don't hesitate to swing by and say hello, and who knows what leads from there? ;)

I'm going to start off by chronicling the first ever foursome I've had, which just occured early this morning. Threesomes are something that I've had with regularity, and oddly enough, no other guys were involved in those. It's definitely a joy to have two ladies dancing away on me, but why double-male threesomes are so rare is something that I cannot explain. Maybe guys just don't like to share?

I first stumbled upon a female couple at Commune Utopia, another fabulous erotic hangout joint. It was quite entertaining to watch the girls sighing and writhing against each other, and I apologize for not having any pics because I'll be honest: it's a stereotypical guy thing, I know but there's a certain attraction for me, when it comes to an act that I can never indulge in.

Moving forward, they noticed how the audience - another guy and I were quite interested in joining in, and it started off with a pretty intesnse sandwiching, while the other lady watched quite smugly!

Everything is big when you indulge in anal play, and it was quite the challenge to fit my girth within her forbidden chamber, but when I got into my stride it got the girl squirming quite desperately!

When we finished her off in both holes simultaneously, we went to pair off. It became quite evident that she was quite taken with me, and dropped to her knees before me to service the sore, throbbing staff. It's no joke taking someone in the ass for my first act!

The other pair went banging away quite enthusiastically, and I just took my time with the sweet lass. As you can see, she knew what she about with swallowing cock, and I couldn't hold it in when it was blatant that she wanted it over her face. Naughty girl.

When someone provides such splendid service, it's only polite to repay it back in full, or maybe even more! But knowing her gentle soul I laid her back, and started off slow introducing her to my thickness. Hey, I know what some ladies say about boys with huge dicks who don't know how to use it, but sure as heck I know what I'm about. You could always ask the scarlet-haired lady about it!

I eventually began to ease her into it, and get her comfortable before I simply dragged her out of her comfort zone and dropped her down a cliff. Remember what I said about playing rough? But it wasn't my fault! She spoke of worshipping my cock, and how else would you expect a man to react to that? Be gracious about it?

When we finished together she was all but shuddering and squirming quite violently in my arms. Bloody wonderful lass.

All in all, a pretty great time during my visit to Commune Utopia. I wish I went there more often - people are great and are plenty willing to share the fun.